I live my life according to the serenity prayer. I don’t really know when this happened, and it was by no means a conscious decision to do it. But I realized during a conversation with my brother that doing so is not just how I get by, but how I find happiness. Let’s face it, for most of us, life is just not that hard. I count my blessings every day. I have a stable job, a roof over my head, lots of friends, a loving family, a couple of adorable, four legged kids and the time and tools to sit around and blog about life. Of course, like everyone, I could certainly find something wrong with my life if I wanted to and do on rare occasion. Sometimes I get caught up in the could have, should have and would have of it all. But the truth is the past is the past and it cannot be changed. It’s just a fact.
Now, I’ve stated in previous posts, my faith is a little scattered, so I found it both amusing and somewhat scary that my happiness is the result of living life by a common christian prayer. So let’s not think too much about it as a prayer and just break it down. And I’m going backwards, because it just makes more sense to me…
The wisdom to know the difference. I started at the end because this is really the big one. Because here’s the thing…. There is very little in life that cannot be changed. It’s not always going to be easy and it’s not always going to be comfortable, but it is possible. Remember that not choosing, is still a choice you’ve made.
The courage to change the things I can. I read (and stole) a twitter post once that said ‘If you don’t like something, change it. If you don’t have time to change it, turn off the tv.’ And this is so very, very true. So much time is wasted doing nothing, so now it’s time to shut up and do something.
The serenity to accept the things I cannot change. There are some things that just cannot be changed. Learn to live with those things. There is really nothing else to do here but deal. You have to find a way to accept the things that cannot be changed, which again, are really few and far between. Don’t let it fuck up your day (or week or life for that matter.)
So find happiness. It’s yours for the taking and chances are, the good life is already yours. It’s just waiting for you to open your eyes and realize it.